What an opening statement huh? It’s not meant to cut you to your core or to make you feel bad about yourself; it’s meant to shake off the cobwebs. This quote actually comes from a beautiful writing by Marianne Williamson and it is something that I frequently discuss in my seminars.
See, here is my confession: I AM PLAYING WAY TOO SMALL!! Pheww. I said it. Feels good to let that out. I know a lot of people might be saying, “wait a minute, I thought you were doing great in practice…you’re supposed to be some kind of guru or consultant or something.”
Well, let me explain. I am doing great in practice. I am some kind of guru or consultant or something, whatever that means. But I hold myself to an intense high standard and so should you.
Let’s examine this a little deeper. There are so many things in my life that I want to accomplish that I haven’t made a reality yet. If there is anything in our lives that we want to accomplish and we haven’t yet done so, the only possible reason could be that we haven’t made it a high enough priority. That sucks but it’s true. If there is anything and I mean anything that you haven’t done yet it can only be because it hasn’t been made a high enough priority.
I can hear all the excuses now. “Doc, you just don’t understand, I’m so busy.” Or, “Rob, you’re so lucky, everything goes right for you.” Or, “I had this terrible thing happen to me that is holding me back.”
Palease!!!!! I remember a few years ago I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine named Dan. Dan is a very successful entrepreneur and is well acquainted with my life story; trials and tribulations included. We were on the phone and I had just found out that my office had a serious black mold problem. This was the third time in a few years that I had a bad experience with black mold, the first of which almost killed my entire family…seriously.
As I was telling Dan about this on the phone he started laughing hysterically. I interrupted him and asked what was so funny. He replied, “the funny thing is that when people see that you are a successful author, speaker, doctor and consultant, they are going to talk about how lucky you are and how everything just goes right for you.”
I agreed and we had a good laugh about it. It is true that most people look upon the successful and think how lucky they are. Little do they know that in reality, successful people are just playing HUGE.
So what areas of your life are you playing too small? Let’s make a list:
- In your business, are you doing what needs to be done?
- Training enough?
- Studying enough?
- Planning enough?
- Marketing enough?
- Working hard enough?
- In your relationships, what needs to be done?
- Paying attention to those involved with you?
- Are you giving of yourself?
- Are you examining your weaknesses?
- Are you loving enough?
- In your relationship with yourself what needs to be done?
- Reading enough?
- Working out?
- Eating healthy?
- Praying, meditating, visualizing?
- Goal setting?
So here is the challenge. A lot of people can read a post like this and get inspired to start playing at a higher level. They can resolve to make things better and genuinely want to change. People can have the best of intentions but have absolutely no idea where to begin or how to implement life changes.
This is the value of personal development. This is why I continue to learn from the best like Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Brian Tracy and Joe Dispenza. It’s why I read their books, go to their seminars and listen to their audio programs.
This, I assume is also why people come to my seminars, read my blogs, read my book and consult with me. It is critical that you have systems in place, that you know how to use your creativity and that you know how to create better habits.
The point of all this is that at times we all play way to small, including me. If you really want to live the life you desire, you MUST play at a higher level. You MUST examine where you are really at. Give yourself a good long look. Be honest, commit to those things you know you MUST and start living a bigger life. YOU CAN DO THIS!