“When you believe passionately in that which does not exist, you create it.”
This is one of my favorite quotes and if you’ve never heard it before, it should become one of yours too. Why? Because if you read deep into it and apply what it says, it could truly change your life. It is in believing passionately that we stir our dreams into action, and it is only by applying action to our dreams that we will ever see them come to fruition. So I ask you, what do you passionately want to see come into existence in your life? And I mean PASSIONATELY! What burns your belly everyday? What do you get out of bed thinking about, what steals your attention numerous times throughout the day and what has a permanent residence in your dreams at night?
You see, this isn’t like The Secret. Don’t get me wrong, I loved The Secret and believe it’s great and inspirational reading for anyone. However, I think too many people walked away from reading or watching it thinking that all they have to do is keep wishing for something and it will magically appear. I don’t blame Rhonda Byrne, the author of The Secret for that…it’s the quick fix mentality that is rampant in our society. I see it in my practice everyday. People come in with health problems that they have had for years, and they want it to go away in two days, without having to change anything in their life to accomplish it. I’m here to tell you that no matter what your desires are, it doesn’t work that way!
So let’s examine this. How can we create the life of our dreams? First of all, you’d better know what your dreams are. After all, how can you be chasing a better life and a more fulfilling existence if you can’t even define what that means to you? It has to be clear, and I mean crystal clear, in no uncertain terms what you want. I’m telling you straight, if you are unhappy with any area of your life, this is the number one problem. It’s not the only one, but it’s the main one. Because if you know in your heart of hearts what you want, and you believe passionately that it will happen for you, it will. Not by some sort of osmosis, or magic, that’s not what I’m saying. When you want something badly enough, to the point that it consumes your every thought (in a healthy way), you will have the energy, you will have the desire and you will have the resolve to do whatever is necessary to make it happen.
Once you have pinpointed what your passionate desire is, you can now put into play the second part of the equation, action. YOU MUST TAKE MASSIVE ACTION TO LIVE THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS! The next time you are watching some rich, famous celebrity, business person or someone that you believe has it all, and you are thinking how lucky they are, remember this: they’re not. They had something that they passionately believed, they cultivated that dream, they were willing to go for it, and they worked their ass off to get where they are. It’s not luck, it’s a passionate belief coupled with massive action. 1 + 1 = 2. It’s that simple. You might be saying “but Rob, I’ve been working hard toward my dreams, and it still hasn’t happened yet.” My first response would be, “have you really?” “How hard?” “How consistently hard have you really worked?” I know in my life when things fall short, I only have myself to blame and if I closely examine why something isn’t working out, I need look no further than the mirror to figure it out. I’m not saying that extraneous circumstances can’t come into play and screw things up. They can. God knows that I’ve had more than my share but I had to move on, pick up the pieces and start kicking some ass again because nobody else was going to do it for me. Guess what it was that made me pick myself up, dust myself off and keep charging on? My passionate desires, plain and simple.
I have spent much of my 15 years in practice coaching and consulting with other doctors to teach them how to have better patient outcomes and how to run better practices. The number one problem I see in anyone that is having a hard time is fear. Fear comes as a result from waffling in what your desires and passions are, because when you believe passionately in something, there is no fear. What I have found in the people I have coached in fact is that they don’t have passionate desires, they have wishes, and wishes will get you nowhere.
Example. “I wish I had a million dollars.” Good luck with that. “I wish I had better health.” Yet you don’t eat well, don’t exercise and just keep taking different kind of drugs and having different procedures that your insurance will pay for to get you healthy. Good luck with that. “I wish my kids would behave better.” But you don’t take the time and energy to discipline them and teach them. Good luck with that one too, and oh just you wait until they become teenagers. Are you starting to get the point? A wish is nothing more than a wish. If you don’t believe passionately in something, you will never have the energy or persistence that it takes to achieve your goals and will wind up five years from now still wishing. Don’t do that!!!!! Don’t be sitting here five years from now still wishing your ship will come in. Build your own ship and launch the damned thing!!!
My passionate desire is clear, and as I said earlier, crystal clear. I want to be one of the top personal development authors and speakers on planet earth in the next five years. If you are reading this right now, you watch and see if it happens. I guarantee you it will. I want you to be reading my books, coming to hear me speak and watching your life transform as a result of it, the way my life has transformed from reading and listening to Anthony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Brian Tracy and Mark Victor Hansen. So let it be written, so let it be done. Please put today’s lesson into action. Define what it is that you passionately believe in, for if you do, you will create it. Have a great one.